Is the Person I'm Dating Actually Who They Say They Are?

Have you independently verified their full legal name — not just what they told you, but through something you've seen yourself (ID, work badge, official document)?

Have you been able to find them independently online — social media, professional profiles, news mentions — beyond what they sent you themselves?

Have you met any of their real-world connections — coworkers, friends, or family — in person or on a verified video call?

Do their photos across different platforms appear consistent and natural — or do they seem limited, overly curated, or like they could belong to someone else?

Reverse image searching profile photos is a basic investigative step anyone can do for free via Google Images.

Have you had a real-time, unscripted video call with them where you could see their environment and they responded naturally?

Have their stated facts about themselves — job, city, age, relationship history — remained consistent across all your conversations?

When you ask detailed follow-up questions about things they've told you — specific places, people, events — do they answer naturally or do they deflect, change the subject, or give vague answers?

Does their stated profession or income level match their apparent lifestyle, vocabulary, and knowledge about that field?

Have they claimed a high-status, difficult-to-verify profession — military deployed overseas, offshore contractor, international executive, doctor working abroad?

These are the most commonly used false personas in romance fraud and catfishing cases investigated nationally.

Do they have a verifiable, stable home address or physical location that you've confirmed independently?

Did the relationship escalate emotionally very quickly — intense declarations of feelings, talk of a future together, or expressions of love unusually early?

"Love bombing" is a documented manipulation tactic used to build false intimacy and lower a target's defenses rapidly.

Have they ever asked you for money, gift cards, cryptocurrency, or any form of financial assistance — even framed as a loan or emergency?

When you've raised concerns, asked probing questions, or expressed doubt, how have they responded?

Are there long or unexplained gaps in communication — hours or days where they go silent without explanation?

Have they told you a compelling personal tragedy — illness, death of a family member, legal crisis, accident — especially tied to a request for support or money?

Have you met in person — not just once, but in multiple natural settings over time?

Are they only available during specific, limited windows — certain hours, certain days — with vague explanations for their unavailability otherwise?

Do they know details about you — your schedule, your home, your workplace — that you haven't consciously shared?

Are they evasive about their past relationships — do they have no verifiable ex-partners, no history you can trace, or wildly dramatic stories about every past relationship?

Could this person be married or in another relationship — based on their availability patterns, communication limits, or anything you've observed?

How did you originally meet this person?

Have any of your friends or family expressed concern or skepticism about this person — even gently?

Have you ever done any independent search on this person — Googled them, searched public records, or looked them up — and found something that didn't match?

Do you feel like you're being managed — like information is carefully controlled, access is limited, and you only know what they choose to show you?

If someone asked you to prove this person is who they say they are, how confident would you be?